A Picture Can Speak Thousands Of Words...
Sent by: Anusha Nair
Friday, September 18, 2009
Friday, September 11, 2009
You Can Win!
Why are Goals Important?
On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will light up. That is the power of concentration.
A man was traveling and stopped at an intersection. He asked an elderly man, "Where does this road take me?" The elderly person asked, "Where do you want to go?" The man replied, "I don't know." The elderly person said, "Then take any road. What difference does it make?"
How true. When we don't know where we are going, any road will take us there.
Supposing you have the football eleven enthusiastically ready to play the game, all charged up, and then someone took the goal post away. What would happen to the game? There is nothing left. How do you keep score? How do you know you have arrived?
Enthusiasm without direction is like wildfire and leads to frustration. Goals give a sense of direction. Would you sit in a train or a plane without knowing where it was going? The obvious answer is no. Then why do people go through life without having any goals?
Sent by: Ajeeth
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Dining Etiquette - UK
In Britain, people are very polite and reserved. They pay a lot of attention to manners and are extremely punctual. Knowledge about British culture and their etiquette plays a vital role in creating a good impression while doing business in Britain.
Greeting hosts/guests: The usual way of greeting your hosts is shaking hands with them. But the one little gesture that many of us miss out while shaking hands is the opening statement like 'Thank you for taking out time and joining me for lunch' or 'Hello, I am so and so.'
Using cutlery: Fork is always held on the left hand and the knife on the right. The prongs of the fork must always point downwards. While eating dessert, a dessert spoon is used in place of a knife and one must never try putting food in the mouth with the help of a knife. Cutleries are always placed according to the usage on both sides of the plate. Always start from the outside set.
After the meal is over, the cutlery must be kept at the six o' clock position; the fork on the left hand side with the tines facing up and the knife on the right hand side with the blade facing in.
Never try to eat with fingers, however there are few food items such as asparagus and gull's egg that must be eaten with the help of your fingers.
Basic table manners: Food and drinks are always served from the right side. While eating, never lean towards your plate. Sit straight. For a serving from a food bowl kept away from you, ask someone closest to pass it for you. Never pick from your neighbor's plate or allow anyone to pick from yours. If extra food is there on the table, offer others first and then serve yourself.
Always, chew with your mouth closed and swallow before eating more. Never talk while eating. Don't rest your elbows on the table when you are having your food. Your other hand should always be on your lap.
It is always suggested to excuse yourself and attend telephone calls and it is best to put your mobile phone on a silent mode when you are lunching with your clients/colleagues.
Drinks: If pouring a drink for yourself, always offer to pour it for others first and then serve yourself.
If white wine is served, hold the glass with its stem whereas in case of red wine, hold the glass by cupping the bowl.
If port wine is served after the meal, then the decanter must be passed to the person sitting on the left and not to the right.
For English, it is not a courteous manner to toast for people who are elder to you.
Using a napkin: Napkins are meant to prevent your attire from greasy food and to dab your lips while eating. Never use it to blow your nose. It must be placed on your lap as soon as you take your seat. After the meal, it must not be placed back on the table neatly folded. Just leave it neatly but loosely on the table.
Greeting hosts/guests: The usual way of greeting your hosts is shaking hands with them. But the one little gesture that many of us miss out while shaking hands is the opening statement like 'Thank you for taking out time and joining me for lunch' or 'Hello, I am so and so.'
Using cutlery: Fork is always held on the left hand and the knife on the right. The prongs of the fork must always point downwards. While eating dessert, a dessert spoon is used in place of a knife and one must never try putting food in the mouth with the help of a knife. Cutleries are always placed according to the usage on both sides of the plate. Always start from the outside set.
After the meal is over, the cutlery must be kept at the six o' clock position; the fork on the left hand side with the tines facing up and the knife on the right hand side with the blade facing in.
Never try to eat with fingers, however there are few food items such as asparagus and gull's egg that must be eaten with the help of your fingers.
Basic table manners: Food and drinks are always served from the right side. While eating, never lean towards your plate. Sit straight. For a serving from a food bowl kept away from you, ask someone closest to pass it for you. Never pick from your neighbor's plate or allow anyone to pick from yours. If extra food is there on the table, offer others first and then serve yourself.
Always, chew with your mouth closed and swallow before eating more. Never talk while eating. Don't rest your elbows on the table when you are having your food. Your other hand should always be on your lap.
It is always suggested to excuse yourself and attend telephone calls and it is best to put your mobile phone on a silent mode when you are lunching with your clients/colleagues.
Drinks: If pouring a drink for yourself, always offer to pour it for others first and then serve yourself.
If white wine is served, hold the glass with its stem whereas in case of red wine, hold the glass by cupping the bowl.
If port wine is served after the meal, then the decanter must be passed to the person sitting on the left and not to the right.
For English, it is not a courteous manner to toast for people who are elder to you.
Using a napkin: Napkins are meant to prevent your attire from greasy food and to dab your lips while eating. Never use it to blow your nose. It must be placed on your lap as soon as you take your seat. After the meal, it must not be placed back on the table neatly folded. Just leave it neatly but loosely on the table.
Social and Gifting Etiquette - UK
In Britain, people are very polite and reserved. They pay a lot of attention to manners and are extremely punctual. Knowledge about British culture and their etiquette plays a vital role in creating a good impression while doing business in Britain
Giving gifts is not part of British business culture. The British consider it embarrassing while receiving gifts from someone. They only exchange gifts after a successful deal. They mark this occasion by giving gold, silver or porcelain with a suitable inscription. The gift shouldn't be exceptionally expensive.
Giving gifts is not part of British business culture. The British consider it embarrassing while receiving gifts from someone. They only exchange gifts after a successful deal. They mark this occasion by giving gold, silver or porcelain with a suitable inscription. The gift shouldn't be exceptionally expensive.
Tasteful and small gifts such as a pen or a book with a suitable inscription are much liked by the British. To thank the junior colleagues for their service, a bunch of flowers or champagne/wine will be well accepted.
It is often well acknowledged, if you invite your guests to opera, theater or a dinner as a thanking gesture.
Gifts are never exchanged during Christmas. However, cards can be sent as an expression of thanks to your business associates.
If you are invited to a British home, it is advised to carry a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine or flowers. If the host does not open the wine bottle in front of you, do not feel offended as he will keep it in his cellar for later use. He must have already opened another bottle for you.
While giving flowers to a British, never choose red roses, white lilies or chrysanthemums.
If you are going to stay with a British family, always gift them something from your own country, such as a coffee table book or an artifact. They have invited you as a guest; you must also let them know about your country.
When in Britain, be polite. Always say 'please' and 'thank you', when in a shopping complex or while asking help from someone. It is also very rude if you bump into someone and don't say a 'sorry'.
Beware of kissing, holding hands/arms or embracing publicly unless you know each other very well. British people avoid physical contact in public.
Office Etiquette - UK
In Britain, people are very polite and reserved. They pay a lot of attention to manners and are extremely punctual. Knowledge about British culture and their etiquette plays a vital role in creating a good impression while doing business in Britain.
The British pays a lot of attention to their office attire. It is conservative for both men and women. Dark suits, usually black, blue and grey are well accepted. Men's shirts should not have a pocket. If shirts have pockets, it must be empty. Single colored or pattered ties must be worn. Striped ties are not well received. For women, a color doesn't matter, however their attire must maintain a conservative image.
English are slow decision makers. Hence, they must be given time to think and decide.
Punctuality is very important for the English. Hence, reaching early or late is not well accepted.
While greeting someone, a firm and confident handshake is a must.
Privacy is very important for the English. Hence, never delve in asking personal questions.
Never make an intense eye contact or physically touch a person in public. It is considered inappropriate. Even during conversations, seldom have eye contacts.
To signal that something must be kept a secret or confidential, always tap your nose.
Gift giving is generally not part of English business.
Friday, September 4, 2009
Dining Etiquette - US/Canada
With more and more business corporations emphasizing on the need to entertain the clients, the right dining etiquette goes a long way in reinforcing your organizations' and your image. Here are some dining etiquette points to remember while you are in the US and Canada.
• It is common to conduct business dinners at homes in American business culture. This doesn't mean that it's meant to be casual. Make it a point to arrive on time if invited for dinner, no more than 10 minutes later than invited. Invitations to homes are rare in Canada and traditionally business is not discussed during the meal. This rule, however, is slowly changing. If it is a business lunch or dinner it is safe to wait for your host to start the business conversation.
• It is common to conduct business dinners at homes in American business culture. This doesn't mean that it's meant to be casual. Make it a point to arrive on time if invited for dinner, no more than 10 minutes later than invited. Invitations to homes are rare in Canada and traditionally business is not discussed during the meal. This rule, however, is slowly changing. If it is a business lunch or dinner it is safe to wait for your host to start the business conversation.
• Always wait to be shown to your seat. Helping yourself before the host starts, resting your elbows on the table, fiddling with the cutlery and chewing with your mouth open are seen as disrespectful in almost every country, including the the US.
• Don't jump into "business conversations" as soon as you are seated. If you are an invitee, wait for the host to begin. If you are hosting the business dinner, pace time for the conversation properly. It's ideal to start after ordering so that, you can have the discussion uninterrupted till the food arrives. Starting the conversation too early will mean that your are only bothered about business while keeping the guests waiting will make them wonder, the purpose of the meeting.
• In Canadian table manners, fork is held in the left hand and the knife in the right while eating. In American dining etiquette it is alright to switch hands while using a knife. Leaving a small amount at the end of the meal is generally acceptable in the Canadian dining etiquette. Table manners are more informal in both the US and in Canada. You can refuse specific foods or drinks without offering an explanation, but do so politely.
• While small talk after a business discussion is allowed, never be the one to initiate by commenting about weather or other general topics. It is advisable to steer away from topics like religion, politics and other controversial subjects at the table.
Source: Internet
Social and Gifting Etiquette - US/Canada
Gifting and social etiquette can get extremely tricky at times. The right and wrong of gifting and social etiquette can make or break a deal. Here are some right gifting and entertaining etiquette clues to make that impression!
• Corporate gifting is not regarded a necessity in American business culture. If you want to gift, be careful to choose an appropriate business gift. Very expensive gifts are to be avoided for valuable gifts could be misinterpreted. In Canadian business culture, gifts are not routinely given. If you do, make sure it is a modest one and probably given when the deal is finalized.
• Corporate gifting is not regarded a necessity in American business culture. If you want to gift, be careful to choose an appropriate business gift. Very expensive gifts are to be avoided for valuable gifts could be misinterpreted. In Canadian business culture, gifts are not routinely given. If you do, make sure it is a modest one and probably given when the deal is finalized.
• It is customary to carry a small gift, like a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine, or a bunch of flowers if you are invited to someone's home for lunch or dinner. It is advisable not to give not give cash or money as a present in Canada. It is absolutely necessary to acknowledge gifts. Always send in a thank you note within two weeks of receiving the gift.
• Americans tend to refrain from hugging and other close physical contact except with family and friends. The same applies to Canadians. Touching, backslapping, hugging are reserved for the inner circle and are considered socially unacceptable.
• Never drop in unannounced; it's common courtesy to call ahead even if you are visiting your best friend.
• Tipping is customary for restaurant visits and taxi travel in Canada. The commonly accepted practice in Canada is to tip between 10%-15% of the entire cost of the bill. While in the US, the general rule for a restaurant or cafe is to tip 15 to 20 per cent of your bill total.
• Always wait for your turn in queues and never cut in ahead of others. If you have many items to be billed, let a person go ahead if they only have one or two items. A person who reaches the doorway first, regardless of gender is responsible for opening the door.
• It is customary to remove your hat when entering a home, restaurant, classroom, theatre, church, etc. in both the US and Canada.
• One should not point in public as pointing is considered rude in the West. Avoid using phrases like "you look tired" or questions like "Are you okay? You don't look well".
• Do not start smoking in someone's car or home without asking first.
• Littering with ashes, butts, matches, empty lighters and packages on pathways, sidewalks, streets, parking lots, beaches, etc. is considered extremely rude.
Source: Internet
Office Etiquette - US/Canada
Office etiquette varies from country to country. Get to know some office do's and don'ts you need to follow in the US and Canada
• The first office etiquette mistake that you can make in the US is not to say "Good Morning and Good Bye." While the rule is to work as quietly and constructively as possible, being friendly matters and it starts with wishing your fellow workers a pleasant "Good Morning."
• The first office etiquette mistake that you can make in the US is not to say "Good Morning and Good Bye." While the rule is to work as quietly and constructively as possible, being friendly matters and it starts with wishing your fellow workers a pleasant "Good Morning."
• In both American and Canadian business culture "time is money." Punctuality is considered sacred and people are expected to attend meetings and appointments on time. However, in Canada, in the French areas, time is more relaxed.
• In U.S. business culture, business dressing tends to vary. While in the east most people wear business suits in the west coast, a more relaxed approach to dressing is the norm. Executives in most regions of the country, however, usually dress formally. When in doubt, dress conservatively; you cannot go wrong with it.
• While addressing a stranger, one could use Sir, Ma'am, or Miss. And, when responding, it is polite to answer "Yes, Ma'am", "Yes, Sir" or "Yes, Miss" as a sign of respect - especially if the person is older than you or if it is a formal conversation. This rule applies to both American and Canadian business etiquette.
• It is advisable to stand at an approximate distance of one arm's length from an individual when introducing yourself. Offer a firm handshake, lasting 3-5 seconds, upon greeting and leaving. Never address people with their first names. Unless they ask you, always stick to Mr., Mrs., Miss, and Ms. If you don't know the marital status of a woman, the rule is not to assume, always use Ms.
• Personal space or gestures differ slightly with the Canadians. In a formal gathering, there is minimal body movement in American business culture. French Canadians stand closer and are more demonstrative and expressive. Though a hand shake is expected in Canadian business etiquette, it is better for men to wait for a woman to extend her hand for a handshake.
• The basic rule of introduction to follow is to introduce lower ranking individuals to higher ranking individuals. And yes always include titles (e.g., Dr., Judge, etc.) and name prefix (e.g., Mr., Mrs. Ms.).
• Americans often ask, "What do you do?" to start a conversation. This kind of question is not regarded presumptuous, but is rather a way to show interest in the individual by showing interest in his or her job.
• Unlike in Japan or in China, exchanging business card is viewed as an ordinary or casual activity and follows no formal rules in both American and Canadian business etiquette.
Source: Internet
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
52 Proven Stress Reducers
1. Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning.
The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.
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2. Prepare for the morning the evening before.. Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.
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3. Don't rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc.
("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory" -)
Old Chinese Proverb
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4. Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.
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5.Make duplicates of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.
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6. Practice preventive maintenance. . Your car,appliances, home, and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment."
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7. Be prepared to wait. A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.
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8. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
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9... Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.
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10. Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers? whatever? are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.
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11. Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments.
Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures.
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12. Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet.
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13. Always set up contingency plans, "just in case." ("If for some reason either of us is delayed, here's what we'll do" kind of thing. Or, "If we get split up in the shopping center, here's where we'll meet.")
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14. Relax your standards.The world will not end if the grass doesn't get mowed this weekend.
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15. Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count them!
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16. Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old "the hurried I go, the beholder I get, " idea.)
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17. Say "No!" Saying "no" to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don't have the time or energy
for takes practice,self- respect, and a belief that everyone, everyday, needs quiet time to relax and be alone.
*
18. Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil.) Or use an answering machine.
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19. Turn "needs" into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don't get attached to preferences.
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20. Simplify, simplify, simplify?
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21. Make friends with non-worriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts.
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22. Get up and stretch periodically if your job requires that you sit for extended periods.
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23. Wear earplugs. If you need to find quiet at home, pop in some earplugs.
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24. Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed.
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25. Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are. Put things away where they belong and you won't have to go through the stress of losing things.
*
26. When feeling stressed, most people tend to breathe in short, shallow breaths. When you breathe like this, stale air is not expelled, oxidation of the tissues is incomplete, and muscle tension frequently results. Check your breathing throughout the day, and before, during, and after high-pressure situations. If you find your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax all your muscles and take several deep, slow breaths.
Note how, when you're relaxed, both your abdomen and chest expand when you breathe.
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27. Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewed perspective.
*
28. Try the following yoga technique whenever you feel the need to relax. Inhale deeply through you nose to the count of eight. Then, with lips puckered, exhale very slowly through your mouth to the count of 16, or for as long as you can. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feel the tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times.
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29. Inoculate yourself against a feared event. Example: before speaking in public, take time to go over every part of the experience in your mind. Imagine what you'll wear, what the audience will look like, how you will present your talk, what the questions will be and how you will answer them, etc. Visualize the experience the way you would have it be. You'll likely find that when the time comes to make the actual presentation, it will be "old hat" and much of your anxiety will have fled.
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30. When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way of getting the job done, diversion ? a voluntary change in activity and/or environment ? may be just what you need.
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31. Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving.
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32. One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don't accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don't associate with people who love to talk politics, etc.
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33. Learn to live one day at a time.
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34. Every day, do something you really enjoy.
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35. Add an ounce of love to everything you do.
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36. Take a hot bath or shower (or a cool one in summertime) to relieve tension.
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37. Do something for somebody else.
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38. Focus on understanding rather than on being understood; on loving rather than on being loved.
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39. Do something that will improve your appearance. Looking better can help you feel better.
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40. Schedule a realistic day. Avoid the tendency to schedule back-to-back appointments; allow time between appointments for a breathing spell.
*
41. Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are well to compromise upon.
*
42. Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I m too old to?," "I m too fat to?," etc.
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43. Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If you work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. If your work week is fast-paced and full of people and deadlines, seek peace and solitude during your days off. Feel as if you aren't accomplishing anything at work? Tackle a job on the weekend which you can finish to your satisfaction.
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44. "Worry about the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." That's another way of saying: take care of the today's as best you can and the yesterdays and the tomorrows will take care of themselves.
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45. Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do.
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46. Allow yourself time ? everyday ? for privacy, quiet, and introspection.
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47. If an especially unpleasant task faces you, do it early in the day and get it over with; then the rest of your day will be free of anxiety.
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48.Learn to delegate responsibility to capable others.
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49. Don't forget to take a lunch break. Try to get away from your desk or work area in body and mind, even if it's just for 15 or 20 minutes.
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50. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing something or saying anything that could make matters worse.
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51. Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world.
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52. Have an optimistic view of the world.. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
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The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.
*
2. Prepare for the morning the evening before.. Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.
*
3. Don't rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc.
("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory" -)
Old Chinese Proverb
*
4. Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.
*
5.Make duplicates of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.
*
6. Practice preventive maintenance. . Your car,appliances, home, and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment."
*
7. Be prepared to wait. A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.
*
8. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
*
9... Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.
*
10. Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers? whatever? are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.
*
11. Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments.
Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures.
*
12. Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet.
*
13. Always set up contingency plans, "just in case." ("If for some reason either of us is delayed, here's what we'll do" kind of thing. Or, "If we get split up in the shopping center, here's where we'll meet.")
*
14. Relax your standards.The world will not end if the grass doesn't get mowed this weekend.
*
15. Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count them!
*
16. Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old "the hurried I go, the beholder I get, " idea.)
*
17. Say "No!" Saying "no" to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don't have the time or energy
for takes practice,self- respect, and a belief that everyone, everyday, needs quiet time to relax and be alone.
*
18. Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil.) Or use an answering machine.
*
19. Turn "needs" into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don't get attached to preferences.
*
20. Simplify, simplify, simplify?
*
21. Make friends with non-worriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts.
*
22. Get up and stretch periodically if your job requires that you sit for extended periods.
*
23. Wear earplugs. If you need to find quiet at home, pop in some earplugs.
*
24. Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed.
*
25. Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are. Put things away where they belong and you won't have to go through the stress of losing things.
*
26. When feeling stressed, most people tend to breathe in short, shallow breaths. When you breathe like this, stale air is not expelled, oxidation of the tissues is incomplete, and muscle tension frequently results. Check your breathing throughout the day, and before, during, and after high-pressure situations. If you find your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax all your muscles and take several deep, slow breaths.
Note how, when you're relaxed, both your abdomen and chest expand when you breathe.
*
27. Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewed perspective.
*
28. Try the following yoga technique whenever you feel the need to relax. Inhale deeply through you nose to the count of eight. Then, with lips puckered, exhale very slowly through your mouth to the count of 16, or for as long as you can. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feel the tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times.
*
29. Inoculate yourself against a feared event. Example: before speaking in public, take time to go over every part of the experience in your mind. Imagine what you'll wear, what the audience will look like, how you will present your talk, what the questions will be and how you will answer them, etc. Visualize the experience the way you would have it be. You'll likely find that when the time comes to make the actual presentation, it will be "old hat" and much of your anxiety will have fled.
*
30. When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way of getting the job done, diversion ? a voluntary change in activity and/or environment ? may be just what you need.
*
31. Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving.
*
32. One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don't accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don't associate with people who love to talk politics, etc.
*
33. Learn to live one day at a time.
*
34. Every day, do something you really enjoy.
*
35. Add an ounce of love to everything you do.
*
36. Take a hot bath or shower (or a cool one in summertime) to relieve tension.
*
37. Do something for somebody else.
*
38. Focus on understanding rather than on being understood; on loving rather than on being loved.
*
39. Do something that will improve your appearance. Looking better can help you feel better.
*
40. Schedule a realistic day. Avoid the tendency to schedule back-to-back appointments; allow time between appointments for a breathing spell.
*
41. Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are well to compromise upon.
*
42. Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I m too old to?," "I m too fat to?," etc.
*
43. Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If you work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. If your work week is fast-paced and full of people and deadlines, seek peace and solitude during your days off. Feel as if you aren't accomplishing anything at work? Tackle a job on the weekend which you can finish to your satisfaction.
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44. "Worry about the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." That's another way of saying: take care of the today's as best you can and the yesterdays and the tomorrows will take care of themselves.
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45. Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do.
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46. Allow yourself time ? everyday ? for privacy, quiet, and introspection.
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47. If an especially unpleasant task faces you, do it early in the day and get it over with; then the rest of your day will be free of anxiety.
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48.Learn to delegate responsibility to capable others.
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49. Don't forget to take a lunch break. Try to get away from your desk or work area in body and mind, even if it's just for 15 or 20 minutes.
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50. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing something or saying anything that could make matters worse.
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51. Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world.
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52. Have an optimistic view of the world.. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
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Source: Nidokidos
BE THANKFUL
By Author Unknown
> Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
> If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
> Be thankful when you don't know something,
> For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
> Be thankful for the difficult times.
> During those times you grow.
> Be thankful for your limitations,
> Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
> Be thankful for each new challenge,
> Because it will build your strength and character.
> Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.
> Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
> Because it means you've made a difference.
> It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
> A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who
> Are also thankful for the setbacks.
> Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
> Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,
> And they can become your blessings
Source: Internet
> Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
> If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
> Be thankful when you don't know something,
> For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
> Be thankful for the difficult times.
> During those times you grow.
> Be thankful for your limitations,
> Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
> Be thankful for each new challenge,
> Because it will build your strength and character.
> Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.
> Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
> Because it means you've made a difference.
> It's easy to be thankful for the good things.
> A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who
> Are also thankful for the setbacks.
> Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
> Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,
> And they can become your blessings
Source: Internet
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